Alcohol and substance abuse or any other addictions will not take
away your problems and fears. In the short run, they might make
you feel better, but in the long run these addictions will only
make things worse.
what do you do to make your problems and fears go away? Well, since
you can’t runaway from them, then the best solution is to
tackle your fears head on no matter how strong they may be. The
key is to be smart in how you try to manage these fears. Here are
some ways in how to manage your persistent fears and anxieties.
The first step is to learn to take it one day at a time. Instead
of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week
or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us
with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes
learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and
stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will
take care of itself.
Remember that no one can predict the future with one hundred percent
certainty. Even if the thing that you feared does happen there are
circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can
be used to your advantage. For instance, let’s say at your
place of work that you miss the deadline for a project you have
been working on for the last few months. Everything you feared is
coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your office and tells
you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you
the day before. This unknown factor changes everything. Remember:
we may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future,
but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
Another technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook
of positive statements that makes you feel good. Whenever you come
across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in
a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket.
Whenever you feel depressed or frustrated, open up your small notebook
and read those statements. This will help to manage your negative
Be smart in how you deal with your fears and anxieties. Do not try
to tackle everything all at once. When facing a current or upcoming
task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, break the task into
a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at
a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances
The important thing is to get the proper help by seeing a professional.
Avoiding your problem through the use of alcohol or other substances
will do nothing in the long run in fixing your problems. It will
just make things worse. Managing your fear and anxieties will take
some hard work. Be patience, persistent and stay committed in trying
to solve your problem.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing
Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods"
- an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques
that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For
additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/